3 steps to choosing the success you desire

December 28, 2016 by Karen Que

The life of an entrepreneur has many ups and downs. There are incredible benefits, difficult challenges, messy chaotic phases, hard decisions, small victories, and massive triumphs along the way.  Most entrepreneurs have experienced all of these and more but the most prominent thing that the entrepreneur lifestyle affords to everyone is the opportunity to always be actively in choice.

Success doesn’t exist unless it is given a definition and meaning. If you’re letting someone else define it for you, then you’re chasing something you’ll never catch. And if you do end up meeting that criteria, it won’t be as fulfilling. It’s important to take ownership of your success and create your own vision and outcome.

Most entrepreneurs who are in it for life make an active choice about what that definition is going to be and what it means to them. They don’t worry much about what others expect of them or what others will think of them because they own the responsibility for their own success. Here’s what I think about when choosing success.

Create an outline

  • What’s the overall vision for success?
    • This should be really big and scary. If it’s not, then you’re not thinking big enough. There has to be some element of fear to push you out of your comfort zone.
  • What outcomes will make me happy?
    • Happiness is a choice too, so make it real.
  • When you have achieved your success, what will it look like, feel like, taste like, and smell like? What support do you want from the people around you when you have achieved your success?
    • Will people be clapping for you once you achieve success, or will they be pushing you away?


  • What’s the overall timeline to achieve this success? Will it take years or months?
  • What are the steps that need to happen for success?
    • These should be big steps. Don’t get caught up in tiny details.
  • How can you make those steps more manageable and less overwhelming?
    • Break those steps down into small tasks and actions.
  • How do these steps need to be ordered for the best results?
    • Organize them into a chronological sequence.
  • How fast do you want to get moving on these given your current priorities?
    • Set some goals and identify target dates for completion.
  • What supplies are required and what kind of help do you want?


  • What’s it going to take for you to be disciplined?
    • You may need to ramp up your management skills by managing the activities, tasks, and resources in the plan. Do you need to take a management class or webinar? Mentors can also be helpful when you’re trying to add to your skill set.
  • Are you willing to be consistent?
    • Consistency is the number one thing that makes success possible. Stay on schedule the best you can and keep making progress, because there are going to be challenges.
  • Are you willing to adjust?
    • When a crisis pops up, don’t let it hold you back for long. You may have to do certain steps out of order, just to make some kind of progress. Even when you’re inching ahead, you’ll still be moving forward.
  • Are you willing to make the hard decisions?
    • When you reach a crossroads, you’ll have to make the best decision that is in line with your vision of success. This may mean moving away from people who don’t support you.
  • Be Happy?
    • It’s important to celebrate the small victories along the way. Sometimes people believe they’re going to identify their success and take 10 years to reach it. That’s a long time to go without any celebration.

When you get stuck, it helps to go back to why you started this process in the first place. And just because you achieve your goal, it doesn’t mean that your journey is completely over. You’re always going to reshape and redefine your success. You’re not an entrepreneur because you’re going to hit the pinnacle and stop. You’re going to continue to redefine and reinvent yourself.

These steps work very well in business but they are not exclusive to entrepreneurs. These are the same steps I use when defining and planning personal success as well so go ahead and apply them to whatever fits your life. My life significantly changed when I let go of others expectations and decided to start defining my own success and I hope these steps help you grab hold of your own destiny.

What is your vision of success for 2017?



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